How to ethically and lovingly get someone to commit with magick.

Love magick can be tricky. It is a minefield of discussions over whether or not it is ethical. Does it violate free will? Does it force people to do things they otherwise wouldn't want? Is it okay to even cast a love spell on someone?
My thoughts don't matter. I simply give you the tools to enhance your life, and you'll use them as you will. However, I do have a little advice and ritual for you.
This is a perfectly ethical and love-based (vs fear based) affirmation for commitment—but first, the Commitment Spell Candle is used to:⠀
✔️deepen the bond in a current relationship. ⠀
✔️nudge a growing bond towards a committed relationship.
✔️encourage and deepen reciprocal loyalty. ⠀ ⠀
—not used to:⠀
❌force an asshole with commitment issues to be with you⠀
❌force community dick to only be loyal to you⠀
❌force a chronic narcissistic cheater to finally commit to you⠀ ⠀
I say this because I want to save you a lot of time and energy! 
A lot of times we turn to love magick in times of desperation. With broken hearts and hurt egos we'd rather force someone to love us than accept it may not be for our highest good and call in something new.
I've been here before trust me. I know how it feels but it's always better to take a step back before adding that candle to your cart, or paying ro the spell work when you're feeling desperate.
Any time your intentions come from a place of lack, desperation, and negativity I can already tell you it won’t work. ⠀ ⠀
Now, when your intentions come from a place of love, gratitude, self-love, gentleness, and peace (but especially love + gratitude) you know that:
1. You’re on a good path with whoever this person is and ⠀
2. It will work out for you especially if it’s in your highest good!⠀
3. If it doesn’t, something even better is in store. ⠀ ⠀
Trust me you’ll feel the difference. You’ll feel the strain vs the flow. The struggle vs the ease.
So, with that said here is a great affirmation/intention to start with for Lunar Libra love candles:
“I am so happy and grateful to have the best possible relationship with ______. I am so happy and grateful to have a reciprocal relationship with ______ that fulfills and satisfies us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. ...(Free write everything else that comes to you)...This or something better, for the highest good of all involved. It’s done!”⠀ ⠀
(Now here’s a little tip: if it pains you to say “this or something better” because you’re afraid that person will run off — then there’s definitely some anxious attachment there AND your intuition and higher self is telling you something.)⠀ ⠀
After your work, make sure to let go of the outcome, and be sure to keep your actions aligned with your desires. Some things you can do moving forward is:
1. Energetically make space for this person - clean your closet and home. Keep your passenger seat clean
2. Script - write your desires as if they've come into fruition already.
3. Prepare for them - maybe you could make a box of things with things for this person such as toothbrushes, toothpaste, grooming items. Put a rose quartz in it and keep it under your bed or in the relationship corner of your room.

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